Why do you have sex?

Love, desire, pleasure, fear of abandonment ... The reasons that lead men and women to have sex which can be as varied as the relations themselves. Several studies have examined this issue. And you, what makes you motivate to the sexual encounter?

Do you ever wonder what the motivations that drive you with that guy or girl who looks so attractive? Traditionally, there were three main reasons that led men and women to bed: love, pleasure and desire to have children. But today we talk more about it and know that the reasons are diverse: from pleasure and desire to insecurity and pressures (group or couple), there are many reasons and are related to psychological, social, cultural and even religious.

This is confirmed by a review of studies on sexual motivations, called Sexuality and Culture 2016, according to the people today there are many more reasons to get involved rather than in past time sexual activity.

There are specialists who truly believe that sexual desire has to do with the fact of being human itself since people would be "programmed" to have sex, just as we are to eat. Another theory, also linked to the idea of ​​evolution says that sexual desire has to do with a biological necessity and the need to preserve the species.

The most cultural approaches, however, focus on individual aspects that motivate people to have sex or not. For example, psychologists at the University of Texas at Austin asked them more than 1,500 college students about their sexual attitudes and experiences. So they divided the responses into four main groups:

• For physical issues such as pleasure, stress reduction, exercise, sexual curiosity or attraction to the other person.

• To fulfill some goal, as have children, become more popular or even seek revenge.

• Emotional issues such as love, commitment or gratitude.

• For reasons that have to do with personality, for example, to improve self-esteem, prevent him seeking sex partner  or feel pressured to have sex.

Do you feel this is identified with any of these groups? There are still more. The review of Sexuality and Culture lists reasons to reduce stress, lift your mood state and relieve depression, feel more empowered, foster jealousy, improve social reputation, make money, need for affection, curiosity and spiritual significance, among many other.

And you, what is motivating you? Do you feel that your desires are not similar to those of your partner? This may be normal because men and women may have different motivations.

Generally, men seeking sex because they like, but how women feel? They also seek for pleasure, generally, they are more interested in improving sex offers in a relationship. The researchers describe these differences as:

• Sex centered on the body: when only physical pleasure is sought, without worrying about the emotions of the partner.

• Person-centered sex: when looking to connect to the other and there is a concern about the emotions and relationship.

According to this analysis, men generally begin with an attitude of sex focused on the body, which begins to change after 40, because as they age tend to value more and more relationships. Women, however, tend to follow the reverse route initially seek to develop, strengthen and maintain relationships, but in long-term relationships can focus on pleasure.

Despite these observations, there are other studies that suggest that in recent years the attitude toward sex with men and women has been approaching: while most women said they have sex for pleasure and more men have done so emotional issues.

Do you agree with this? There is still more: remember that sex has many health benefits . So you have much more reasons to enjoy your privacy. And tell you what leads you to have sex?